Building relationships are hard. Maintaining one? Way harder. With a lot of social media reducing contact hours with other people it is no surprise that some of us find it difficult to find that special someone.
Dating apps are a great service but there is only so much they can do. Most relationships end up doomed from the start nowadays and mostly it’s based off miscommunication. Sometimes, it’s the lack of any communication! ‘Why are you not responding to texts?’ ‘Why are you entertaining your ex?’ ‘Why are you picking the savourees I specifically ordered for MYSELF off MY PLATE?!’ You get the drift.
While, the age-old gender dynamic has changed somewhat over the years in dating, what remains true are the classic experiences both genders face. While most men crave tolerance and most women crave fidelity, both sexes agree that they ultimately want peace of mind.
Unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Especially when you model yourself after that Disney fairy tale love story. Some of the harrowing experiences people face in relationships will have you reconsidering jumping into the 21st century dating pool.
Oloni Baby is a popular UK social media activist for women’s sexual rights who runs @SimplyOloni. Running an award-winning digital platform for women’s sex and relationship features, she gets to give insight into some of the ups and downs in modern dating and relationships. Her features inspire and educate on the lengths people will go to keep relationships and the breaking points that made them leave it all.
This is not to say that love is not a beautiful, amazing, rollercoaster of a gift. Love is magic and dating or courting (if you are thinking long-term) is something we encourage you to indulge in.
Lessons can be learned from bad experiences, even if they are not ours- especially if you are dating a sociopathic narcissist from the deepest circles of hell. This way, one can better advise their hearts in case they find themselves falling into a cesspit of a relationship. Never say ‘it couldn’t be me.’ Anything can happen to even the strongest of us. Read and heed these lessons.
Disclaimer: some of these posts are very, very traumatic. Please read them with care. Side-effects may include rage and frustration.
Here are 15 worst experiences women faced in their relationships.
1. He said what?
He cheated various amounts of time to the point I wouldn’t have sex with him. After holding out, he got so mad, his last words to me were “why would you take away the one thing you’re good for.”
— pretty flacko (@cartiercuavo) July 13, 2021
2. Now, Now! We need him locked up now!
When he beat me a week b4 giving birth. I called him to let him know that I'd given birth & the baby is not moving. He said "oh, so you couldn't give birth too?"
It was during the hard lockdown last year & I had to bury baby alone with the people from the mortuary.
— toptierhun (@toptierhun) July 13, 2021
3. Attempted murder is what this is.
When he ate nuts and kissed me to see what would happen… I’m freakin allergic
— Ness🇯🇲 (@Vanessa123uk) July 13, 2021
4. This man really needs to be saved coz…
After we had sex for the first time (and my first time ever) he got his bible out and started showing me scriptures about how I was a Jezebel
— 💛Mama of Two💛 (@DanielleC0483) July 13, 2021
5. Absolutely trifling.
He gave me the clap while I was pregnant. Then the side bitch txted me and said “he told me to tell you sorry”
— Raee✨ (@Muva_Shark) July 13, 2021
6. Thank heavens he’s an ex.
My ex got mad when I started crying during contractions, waiting to give birth and told me to stop crying for attention.
— 𝕽𝖎𝖟𝖟𝖔 🍒 (@rissy2sway) July 13, 2021
When I went through his phone (thought he was sleeping) then he turned and said "after you finish finding what you looking for, go cry outside.. 😑
— kea 👑 (@kea_mabuse) July 13, 2021
8. The impudence!
When I sent him multiple paragraphs on how much he hurt me and he was like "I knew exactly what I was doing I just didn't care" loooool (?!)
— laila (@lailatweetzx) July 13, 2021
9. Rude. Just rude.
when he would ignore me for days at a time & if I called him out he would say “well u don’t have anything important to say anyway”
— free britney (@tiffanypolaroid) July 13, 2021
10. Oh, this one cuts like ice.
I asked to meet his mom after several months of being together and he replied “it‘s not like we’re going to be together much longer anyway”
— kiersten (@kierstensworld) July 13, 2021
I begged for communication severally. I didn’t have too much as at then but I made sure I gifted him so nicely on his birthday but on my birthday, no texts no whatsoever. I had to text to ask him if he has forgotten the day and his response was “ calm down mama why so hyper” Omo
— The Uncommon Girl☘️ (@FavouriteCoco) July 13, 2021
12. I was born a savage.
Texted him “I love you “ his response “please stop it, I don’t love anyone , not even my family “💀
— 🙂 (@penny_gerson) July 13, 2021
13. What is this mental gymnastics?
When he cheated and said he was thinking about me the whole time
— Smokerhunter (@Phumyfied24) July 13, 2021
14. Aeih, my chest oo.
When his side bitch sent me a VN from HIS whatsapp dead at night letting me know he doesn’t want my ass and she got him now. The next day he called like nothing happened so I mentioned it to him, he turned and said “wtf?, she said she was gunna contact you on FB”. 🤣
— Sugar Lumps Spicy Humps (@Jujubeejade1) July 13, 2021
We took a break because of problems in the relationship…this triggered my bipolar💔and I tried to end my life…when he was told he replied by saying "That's good…that means she loves me".
— ImmATurntUpLittlyThottyAin'tNoWifeAbout (@LeonessThe) July 13, 2021